Extend Yourself Grace!
It is so important to extend ourselves grace, especially during this season! Just as God grants us grace, and we in turn give it to others, it is just as important to give yourself that same grace! With everything happening in the world today with Covid, social injustice, and with our own personal baggage that we all carry and deal with daily, we must remember to be kind to ourselves and extend grace.
I had a moment today where I was crying and so emotional, and something I always ask myself is "why am I not good enough? Why am I not enough? Why is whatever I'm doing seem like it is enough?" I can be the strong friend that everyone calls and leans on, and I still will feel like that isn't enough. Yes, I'm praying for them. Yes, I'm supporting them. Yes, I'm providing a listening ear. Yes, I am doing everything I possibly can for them but I still feel like it's not enough. At work, I feel like I am going above and beyond, trying to be the best at my job, the best on my team, striving for that promotion, trying to further advance my career and it still feels like it's just not enough. In relationships, I'm constantly wondering "why am I not good enough for a man to choose me?" especially since my single season has lasted way longer than I wanted it to (let's be clear on that, LOL), but I'm always so hard on myself.
My therapist asked me today "what more do you think you need? If you got a third degree, would that make you enough? If you wrote a second book, would that make you enough?" And my answer was no! So her response was "well then if perfection is not the answer, then why not extend yourself grace and realize you are doing everything you can do?" I have always wondered why are people okay with losing me? And a really good sister friend reminded me today that the person who needs to NOT be okay with losing you is YOU, TT! And that hit home because while I'm worried about not being enough for everyone else, and them not losing me I'm forgetting that I am enough for me and that I can't lose me.
So I just encourage you to extend yourself grace! Grace when you feel like you're not doing enough. Grace when you feel like your best isn't good enough. Grace when you feel like someone isn't choosing you.....YOU CHOOSE YOU!
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